go through all the major areas of your life and decide how each would be different if the only person you had to impress was you. would you have a different career? what kind of house would you live in? would you drive a different car? How would you dress? how would you spend your spare time? would you be married to the person you’re married to / involved with? would you have the same friends?
often we assume various layers of pretense not so much out of our own needs, but because of someone else’s. how often are we untrue to ourselved because of the pressures of our family, the demands of our mate, the entreaties of our children? if your life-style reflects someone else’s idea of how your life should be, take a few moments to imagine, how much simpler it would be if you dropped the pretense and learned to just be yourself.